Apr 26 2013

10 best and worst cities for interracial relationships

Interracial dating has gotten easier over the decades, and MOST places you go with your rainbow partner won’t get you chased out of town by an angry lynch mob.  But some places in the U.S. just seem to be a bit more open–or downright blase–about interracial partnerships, while others are…well…a bit more conservative, or downright hostile.

If you’re looking to get your swirl on, keep it on, and then set some roots, you might want to survey these top spots.

10 best/worst cities for interracial dating

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Best

1. San Francisco, CA
2. Seattle, WA
3. Minneappolis, Mn (sp)
4. Denver, Co
5. Phoenix, AZ
6. San Diego, CA
7. Honolulu, HI
8. New York, NY
9. Los Angeles, CA
10. Oakland, CA

Worst

1. Birmingham, AL
2. Detroit, Mi
3. Philadelphia, PA
4. Cleveland, OH
5. Atlanta, GA
6. Cincinnati, OH
7. Pittsburgh, PA
8. Jacksonville, FL
9. Memphis, TN
10. New Orleans LA

Apr 22 2013

Top 10 Reasons Black Women Prefer White Men

Taken from Miss Jia 
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With a few people finding the article funny and others thinking that the article was crass, opinions were divided like sh*t.
10. White men take care of their women. Not just emotionally, but financially, too. A lot of Black men come from broken homes and were raised by single mothers. They never saw a man helping their mother out financially, so they don’t see why they should help their woman out financially. To them, seeing a woman struggle is normal. They have that “my mother worked fifteen jobs to make ends meet, why can’t you?” mentality. White men on the other hand are more generous. Nine times out of ten, their woman doesn’t even have to ask for help, they just do it because that’s what real men do.

9. White men have family values. It’s not often that you’ll see White men with eleventeen “baby mamas” all over the place, unlike “other races” … oh, fuck it, unlike BLACK MEN. White men usually come from two parent homes. They grew up seeing their parents in loving marriages and with siblings that all have the same mother and father, and that’s what they one day hope to have.

8. White men know how to manage money. White men aren’t flashy. If you’re looking for a man with fantastic money management skills, get you a White man. White men believe in creating a nest egg or a cushion to fall back on. A White man will save, invest and grow his money. Most Black men don’t even have a savings account… but they got them J’s, though.

7. White men prefer that their woman stays home and will do anything to create a comfortable life for her. A White man will work hard to provide for his lady and his family so that they never want or need for anything. Black men aren’t having that. Again, you’re dealing with men who grew up seeing their mothers busting her ass to make ends meet. They never saw their mother as the “homemaker” or housewife… even if ever became a Wife, she probably didn’t have the luxury of not working and just taking care of home. With a White man, you have options. They love women that are ambitious and want to make her own money, so if she wants to work, she can… if not, that’s cool too. A White man can usually provide for himself and his woman, so her not wanting to work is never a problem. Also, White men are generous. They love to spoil their woman with anything her heart desires, unlike Black men who are usually asking their woman for money to get the latest sneakers.

6. White men know that there are ways to make a lot of money legally. You won’t catch a White man hugging the block or in the “trap”, unlike Black men who only aspire to become a rapper, ball player or drug dealer because those are the only occupations the men they admire have. White men go and get an education for themselves and eventually go on to pursue six figure careers. CAREERS. Not jobs, not hustles, CAREERS.

5. White men are very easy going and laid back. You won’t have to worry about getting smacked down to the ground because you two have a disagreement. You won’t be called out of your name or belittled for having a backbone.

4. White men are gentlemen. These days, Black men meet a woman and within a week, they’re trying to invite themselves over to her house (because they can’t have company at their mama’s house) and fuck. White men court the woman they desire. They will come to your door with flowers instead of texting you “come outside”, they will open the car door for you, take you out for a night on the town, bring you back home and will be satisfied with just that. They usually date to find their Wives and aren’t just trying to get a nut, so there’s no rush to get into your panties.

3. White men cater to their women. Waking up to breakfast in bed is nothing out of the ordinary. And while we’re on the subject of food, White men have no problem cooking for their woman. If she’s tired and says “Baby, can you please make dinner tonight?”, it’s not a problem. Men of “other races” are used to being babied, especially since most of them don’t leave the nest until they’re almost thirty. They don’t care if you had a long day, you better get in there and fry him the big piece of chicken.

2. White men live longer. They take care of themselves, eat right, exercise and GO TO THE DOCTOR regularly, so you won’t have to worry about your husband dying at the age of forty. Let’s talk about going to the doctor for a second, which is something that Black men don’t do often enough. Not only can you trust a White man to take his health seriously, you can trust him to take YOUR health seriously. By that, I mean that it isn’t as scary to sleep with White men as it is with Black men. Most Black men don’t know that they have an STD until they pass it on to their woman. Having unprotected sex with numerous women will not get a White man a gold star next to his name, like it would a Black man.

1. Your children will be half White, with lighter skin and a better grade of hair, which is what most Black men wish they had. Black men usually date outside of their race not because that is their preference, but because they hate the fact that they’re Black. Black men find mixed children (and people in general) to be more attractive. This is why they usually pursue women of other races, not knowing how genetics work and that even if they procreate with a woman of another race, their child can still be black as night with the kinkiest hair. In my opinion, it’s better to marry and procreate with a White man than it is to procreate with a Black man. Why? Well, I don’t have any children, but I can imagine how it feels to watch your son grow up loathing his dark skin, coarse hair, degrading Black women and resenting you, the Black woman who gave him life.
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Taken from Miss Jia

Interracial Dating
Dec 11 2012

Interracial Dating: What’s wrong with that?

By neddy.geoghegan on News24.com

White Daughter: “Dad, What would you say if I brought home a black boy?”

White Father: “The same thing I would say to any boy you brought home. Can you run faster than my shotgun can fire?”

White Daughter: “No, seriously Dad!”

White Father: “Ned, listen. Who you choose to date and who you choose to love is not my choice. It is yours, I don’t have to be with the guy, you do. If he loves you, if he treats you the way I expect him to, if he has ambition and if he makes you happy. Then I am happy.”

This is a conversation I had with my father some years ago. I know that both of my parents would genuinely not care who my siblings or I decide to bring home to meet the family. They love us no matter what and will support us in our decisions as well as our chosen partner. After all, the only thing that should be separated by colour is your washing.

To my friends and me, interracial relationships and dating are not obscure, taboo or wrong by any means at all. It’s just, normal. We see it all the time and are exposed to it on a daily basis. One of my dearest friends from school (a girl), who I have known since the age of ten and my brother’s best friend (a boy) who has been a big part of our lives since we were in nursery school dated. It was no surprise as they seemed to have a crush on each other for years at school and only decided to pursue their interests for each other at university. She was an honours student at school, played first team hockey and was an incredibly popular girl with her bleach blonde hair and bright blue eyes. He too was an honours student, a first team rugby player (now playing centre and fullback for the UJ Lions), a first eight rower at the top rowing school in the country and extremely popular with his athletic build and quick wit. She is white and he is black. To our generation, this raises no eyebrows. They are simply two people, with similar interests, who are best friends and who are in love. Not very different from any other couple I know (Except for the fact that I am positively sure that if they had children, they would dominate all the other kids in sports, lol!).

The same goes for another pair of our friends within our friendship circle. Thembi and Tammy. Both honours law students at the University of Pretoria who have been dating for about four years now. The same goes for my best friend Sam (who is a black girl at UCT) who has dated many white boys. The same thing goes for my younger sister who is fifteen. Ok, well she is not allowed to date yet, but she has the biggest (little girl) crush on one of my university friends, Mpho. It’s not very surprising both as he is a male model and all girls tend to go mad for him. If you can picture a mixture of Usain Bolt and Mario (the American singer/ actor), that’s how he looks. The same goes for another of my great school friends who is half Indian and half coloured. She is a South African swimmer who has won four gold medals at the previous youth Olympics and who is now at university in America on a swimming scholarship. She has a body to die for and is a stunning, stunning girl and all the boys (regardless of race) absolutely adore her.

If you are wondering what my point is, this article is written in conjunction to previous articles published here on news24 about being homosexual and what a parent might say if their child “came out the closet”. Personally I feel there is absolutely no problem with being either gay or lesbian, as long as you are happy.

So what would YOU say if your child or your sibling “came out the closet” about dating someone of a different race? Is it really that wrong in a modern democracy in the 21st century? I surely do not think so. We are all human beings with a brain and with a heart.

We are all free to date or fall in love with whoever we want to. That should not be dictated by society.

By neddy.geoghegan on News24.com

 

 

Interracial Dating
Dec 6 2012

On Interracial Dating

“I need them to stop [caring about Interracial Dating]. What year is it? Like, stop. Seriously. Trust me, I gotta say, it is weird for me that I’m with a white dude. Trust me. I look at him sometimes and I’m like, ‘You are so white.’ Seriously! Yes, I gotta be real like that. I’m the first black girl he’s ever been with, so we are learning. Trust me, he’s been through ‘Weave 101.’ I’ve been out on a date but not like this, not like my dude. I had to tell my mom and my step-dad who still thinks he follows Farrakhan. It’s crazy. We learn a lot about each other but people came at me like, ‘I can’t believe you’re dating a white dude and you don’t like black dudes no more.’ I’m like, ‘I love black men, it just so happens that my heart went this way right now.’ Who knows? I’m happy…My family’s happy. [My pops] is cool. He still keeps calling him ‘my friend.’ [He says], ‘How’s your friend?’ Like, it’s been almost three years.
People came at me. Now it’s better, like when I started sending pictures or people started seeing pictures on Twitter, people really came at me hard, but now it’s fine. Like I said, I do look at him like, I can’t believe I’m with a white dude. I don’t let him dance. I tell him, ‘Look like a pimp, I will dance around you.’ He can do a lot of things, but he can’t dance.”

 

 

Dec 4 2012

Eve talks interracial Dating

By Sonya Eskridge

Eve is still adjusting to the fact that she’s dating a White guy.

The Former Ruff Ryder, who is recording a new album, recently sat down for a chat with Hot 97 to discuss how things are in her life now. For starters, the rapper has moved to London to live with her British millionaire boyfriend Maximillion Cooper.

While she didn’t mention how they met, she said they’ve been together for more than three years and people still give her a little flack for dating outside of her race.

“People came at me like, ‘I can’t believe you’re dating a White dude and you don’t like Black dudes no more.’ I’m like, ‘I love black men, it just so happens that my heart went this way right now,” she said, adding that she really needs people to stop caring about the topic of interracial dating all together.Eve Interracial Dating

Breaking the news to her parents was a whole different issue because Eve characterizes her father as man that seems to follow the principles of Louis Farrakhan. But as long as Max is treating Eve right, they’ve got no problem with Eve’s British beau. “My family is happy, though. [My pops], he’s cool with it,” the rapper shared. “He still keeps calling him ‘my friend.’ He’s always like, ‘How’s your friend?’ I’m like, it’s been almost three years [laughs]. But, it’s good.”

Still, Eve admits that being with Maximillion is out of the norm for what she grew up with. “I gotta say, it is weird for ME that I’m with a white dude. Trust me,” said Eve. While Max isn’t the first White guy she’s been on a date with, being with Eve is really new for him, too.

“I look at him sometimes and I’m like, ‘You are so white.’ Seriously!”Eve joked, adding that she’s had to school him about Black women and our beauty rituals. ” I’m the first black girl he’s ever been with, so we are learning. Trust me, he’s been through Weave 101.”

She added, “We learn a lot about each other.” One of the things Max is still learning about is Eve’s early days in the rap game, and it seems he doesn’t take her old image very seriously. He knows about Eve being the Pitbull In A Skirt…and he thinks it’s adorable. “He still can’t understand it. He thinks it’s all cute, which also annoys me sometimes,” Eve shared. “He’s like ‘look how cute you are.’ and I’m like, ‘Nah, I was hard!’”

And with the holidays upon us, DJ Angie Martinez was curious about how Christmas with their families has been. Was it Guess Who? moment? “It’s different for him, but it’s different for me too,” said Eve.”Christmas dinner, I had to get used to parsnips and turnips, and that’s fine. They taste good, but you know it’s different.”

Eve’s not quite as open to change with everything, though. “I do look at him and be like, ‘I can’t believe I’m with a White guy,’” she said. “I don’t let him dance. It’s not going down. I tell him, ‘Look like a pimp. I will dance around you.’ I don’t let him dance. He can do a lot of things, but he cannot dance.”

A rapper moving to London to be with her British boo sounds like a plot line just made for reality TV, but don’t expect Eve to have cameras following her around any time soon. “I couldn’t do it in a way that they’re in my face a lot,” Eve explained. “Never say never, but not right now.”

Speaking of reality TV, her ex-boyfriend Stevie J caused quite a stir on “Love & Hip Hop: Atlanta” this year.  Eve can’t  say for sure what

“I haven’t watched it,” Eve asserted. “I just can’t allow myself, but trust me when I tell you, people give me updates. What can I say. I was young and dumb. What I hear is out of control.”

One of the first people she heard from about the show—and about Stevie J’s antics. Though she is loathe to admit it. Stevie was first love and none of the things she’s heard about Stevie has come s a shock to her. “I’m not surprised. That’s what makes it bad,” said Eve, who still does’t know what initially attracted her to Stevie on a romantic level even though she acknowledges his talent. “I can’t even blame it on drugs or nothing. I wish I could!”

by Sonya Eskridge